To quote a famous saying, no woman wakes up in the morning thinking ‘I hope I won’t be swept off my feet today.’ Any man can sweep any woman off her feet. It just needs the right broom.
This article is in the interest of helping guys pull off first dates like gentlemen.
The two most common mistakes that guys make when it comes to first dates, is to either go haywire and plan something really huge and scare off his date, or else try to play overly cool and casual and end up seeming like a disrespectful and selfish person.
Here are some guidelines that you need to keep in mind.
CALM DOWN; Don’t start spiraling into whether you look good enough or whether or not she likes you. Remember, she already agreed to go out with you. This means she said yes when she could have very easily said no. She made a plan to go out with you. This means it’s no longer your job to make her like you. It is now your job NOT to mess it up.
LOCATION; Contrary to popular belief, a dinner at an expensive restaurant is not the best place for a first date. It will sow doubts in your partner’s mind as to how the night would turn out or make her worried that things are getting too romantic at once. The best idea for a first date would be a small activity and a cup of coffee. This will keep things light and calm, helping the both of you to connect more than just being seated in one place. A good idea for an activity would be something like bowling or going to an arcade to try out some games. Anything that will get the both of you slightly active. This is an excellent way to break off any tension that you may both have. Remember, a casual high five or hug when she wins, is a great way to break the touch barrier in a friendly manner making the both of you feel considerably closer to each other.
COFFEE; Be an intelligent/active conversationalist. This does not mean being a conversation hog. Talk about things where the both of you can easily have a say in. If you are looking for ideas this link is to an article that mentions the top seven things to ask a girl on a first date.Top Seven Questions To Ask on a Date
Most importantly LISTEN when she is talking. Don’t be thinking about her smile or her dress or any other creepy thoughts that come into your mind. Look at her eyes and PAY ATTENTION! That way when she asks you something you have something better to say than the clichéd ‘I like your smile.’
REMEMBER. This is the first date. This is not the time for you to get very intimate or to assume that you are already in a relationship with her. Play the evening cool and give her room to enjoy your company. This is the one chance you get to show her that you are different from the others out there. Keep in mind that the objective of a first date is not to make her fall in love with you but to make sure you get a second date.
THE ENDING; Be a gentleman and pick up the tab. In today’s generation, you need to respect the fact that women like to be independent therefore offer to split the cost if she insists.
Walk her to her car or cab and say goodbye. Do not go for a handshake and do not go for an intimate kiss. Instead, hug her and kiss her lightly on the cheek. Let go, look into her eyes and smile.
Hold the door for her and tell her that you had an amazing time.
Try to follow a similar set of steps for your next first date and there is an extremely high probability that the second date will present itself very fast.
Good Luck Gentlemen!
Go get that dream girl!
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